坐在電影院裏，不少一個人來看戲的觀衆，尤其年輕女性。我身邊左右，都是。片中，女主角的媽媽（聲演）是個操控狂，她的爸爸健在，但没出場（如常缺席的“父親”）。她的丈夫，是男孩。她的員工，如小學生。她的事業搭檔，外表是男性，但在請不請CEO來營運公司的立場上，他對她來說，並不是她需要的“那個男人”，因为，他“公事公辧”。
她需要的，是有温度的一個男人。
温度，来自成熟。
剛巧，昨天我轉貼了一條Common Sense 的訃聞，看著電影時，我不能不想到，片中那無限耆的見習生，不就是姓“常”，名“識”？
正常的常，平常的常，認識的䜟，見識的識。而這個老掉大牙的“家有一老，如有一寶”或“有瓶薬油守门口”的故事，卻因互联网使人生活低智化而有了“新顏”，特别對於新社會棟樑：女性们。
互联网時代為什么会令新人類在与“人”有關的事情面前如此一筹莫展？這個问號，當然不會由臉書或谷歌主動回答，因为它们的王國，就是以子民的“無助”來建造的。
一，在䋞絡世界，“朋友”和“資訊”手到拿來，連“成功”也是。女主角本身就是缩影，她的售賣服務，由單打獨鬥到旗下員工220人，只發生在短短十八個月内。而事業与婚姻危机双双臨門，不正因為“時机其实還不成熟”？但，生意上門難道不接？毎天疲於奔命，難道不也因為，人要跟被科技与巿場壓縮了的時間賽跑？
二，在情感世界，“朋友”是不能虚擬的，“成功”代替不了愛與關懷。但當人被灌輸了情感也像做買賣，只能臝不能輸，對於失败的恐懼心理，會使我們更依賴對自己的“信任”而𣎴是他人，因为，他人隨時有可能為了利益“出賣”我們。只是，如果這些不安全感出於投射，會不會在我们的潛意識中，早有犧牲别人成全自已的想法？這些矛盾造成的危机感，強化了人的自我中心意識 - 我必须保護自己，同時也叫人覺得孤立，脆弱。所以，臉書成了貎似互相扶持，實則各自表述的“私密廣場”：我只讓你知道我想你知道的，和我想你知道的也就是我想自己知道的。
簡單二字：取暖，或四個字：爭取認同。
但“取暖”是不會叫問題消失的。
“爭取認同”也不能解叫问题。
因为，光是擺出姿態或發出求救訊號，均是無助的表現，骨子里，這個人是處於被動位置，愈要依賴他人，他的無力感便愈大，如果他还是不去面對，但又不能承認自已軟弱，他便會説服自己，是他人陷自己於這個他想逃離但徒勞的境地，這時候，他的自信愈縮水，他的自我愈膨脹。這種追著自己尾巴吠叫的情况，便是拒绝在經驗中學習的典型。
也就是，無法經一事，長一智。
智慧，是一種天賦嗎？
以電影中一老一少的表現看來，它可以是由從自己角度跳出來看人看事累積成經驗，再轉化成一種“常識”：了解别人，了解状况，了解自已能對别人有什麽幫得上忙的地方。理論上，這可以是每個人都做得到的事情。在社會没有那麽多商業神童wunderkinds 的幾十年前，年輕人的“朋友”还真是“人”而不是一種概念，例如誰比誰更有權，有錢，有更多“朋友”和“点贊”，曾經，我们相信“我為人人，人人為我”。但今天，連上課學習，也會有同學疑惑的問：“老師，我學了這個（即認同了你所說的），我有什麽好處？” 不是有什么用，是好處。
經驗，是新人類最不需要的，因为，他們的現在和未来非常一致，叫互联网决定一切。
片中七十歳的“見習生”見工時，比他年輕半世紀的上司一本正經问他：你看得見十年後的自己嗎？問畢，才知尶尬。這笑點説明的，正是“主觀是年輕的權利，也将是統治世界的語言”，因為那世界每個人都叫“我”。
女主角被“我”累翻了，見習生才會是進入得了她眼睛裏的“他”。但，我很懷疑，如果𣎴是這個“他”譲她放下了防衞（她也曾經怕他太觀人於微而想把他調走），她能在他身上找到稍作歇息空间嗎？
而這歇息空间，不正因为他對於她，没有慾望，没有要求，没有壓力？當然上面三者都跟一個因素有関：時間 - his clock is tickling，therefore is to nobody's threat，but at everyone's service.
所以這部電影於我，温暧又蒼凉。
An Obituary in the London Times today.
Today we mourn the passing of a beloved old friend, Common Sense, who has been with us for many years. No one knows for sure how old he was, since his birth records were long ago lost in bureaucratic red tape. He will be remembered as having cultivated such valuable lessons as:
- Knowing when to come in out of the rain;
- Why the early bird gets the worm;
- Life isn't always fair;
- And maybe it was my fault.
Common Sense lived by simple, sound financial policies (don't spend more than you can earn) and reliable strategies (adults, not children, are in charge).
His health began to deteriorate rapidly when well-intentioned but overbearing regulations were set in place. Reports of a 6-year-old boy charged with sexual harassment for kissing a classmate; teens suspended from school for using mouthwash after lunch; and a teacher fired for reprimanding an unruly student, only worsened his condition.
Common Sense lost ground when parents attacked teachers for doing the job that they themselves had failed to do in disciplining their unruly children.
It declined even further when schools were required to get parental consent to administer sun lotion or an aspirin to a student; but could not inform parents when a student became pregnant and wanted to have an abortion.
Common Sense lost the will to live as the churches became businesses; and criminals received better treatment than their victims.
Common Sense took a beating when you couldn't defend yourself from a burglar in your own home and the burglar could sue you for assault.
Common Sense finally gave up the will to live, after a woman failed to realize that a steaming cup of coffee was hot. She spilled a little in her lap, and was promptly awarded a huge settlement.
Common Sense was preceded in death,
-by his parents, Truth and Trust,
-by his wife, Discretion,
-by his daughter, Responsibility,
-and by his son, Reason.
He is survived by his 5 stepbrothers;
- I Know My Rights
- I Want It Now
- Someone Else Is To Blame
- I'm A Victim
- Pay me for Doing Nothing
Not many attended his funeral because so few realized he was gone.
青春就应该这样绽放 游戏测试：三国时期谁是你最好的兄弟！！ 你不得不信的星座秘密